I was a Dating Addict, These are The Things I Did to Recover

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I know I am not alone when I say I was a dating addict. Until you find “the one”, or whatever that’s supposed to mean, you might have had an addicted dating phase. Dating apps are made to be addictive. You can swipe for hours and hours in search for that perfect match and nothing.

Then you are back there the next day doing the same thing. Going on dates is also addictive, even if you have a series of bad ones. Because at the end of the day, we are still hoping to find “the one”. How can you give up on the search for that person that is supposed to save you from your misery and make your life much better?

And that’s exactly the problem. Until you learn for real that nobody is here to save you and you need to save yourself from whatever role you put yourself into you, you probably will be stuck in a bad dating phase.

Back in 2019, my life was a mess. I was recovering from a divorce and from a break-up and still wanted to date. I have mixed memories from that time, where I was drowning and walking in the desert at the same time. How is that even possible? But that’s how I felt.

I had so many bad dates, I met so many shitty men, because I was attracted to them and attracting them. I was in a bad place and I was doing shitty things to myself. I was drinking alone almost…