Is Adopting Better Than Getting Pregnant?

Only you know this answer, but here is some food for thought.

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Disclaimer: First of all, I want to be clear that this article is about my experiences with these subjects (adoption and pregnancy), and I am not here to tell people what is better for them. As I mentioned in the subtitle, only you know what’s best for you. Also, there isn’t right or wrong, but what feels right or wrong for you. This matter is very personal. What I want with this article is to see if there is anyone else that ever thinks about this question (assuming that they have both options available to them).

This is a question I ask myself frequently. Every time I think about becoming a mother, I debate if I want to adopt or if I want to get pregnant.

I am adopted, and I know how my adoption changed my life and my parents’ lives. I wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for them. Most orphan kids come from poverty, and being adopted not only means receiving love and affection but also having access to opportunities (and money).

It was because of my parents that I studied in the best schools. I learned how to speak English. I lived in Canada and moved to the UK. It was all because of them. It is also because of them that I have a family and experienced the love of parents, grandparents and other family members. Without them, I honestly don’t want to think what type of life I would be living, but I can guarantee it would be a very different one from the one I live.

This knowledge (because of my own experience) of how adoption can literally save orphan children is the main reason that I want to adopt. I know I have love and affection to give, and I also know that I can help a child to have more opportunities to have a better life. So when I think about starting a family, adoption is my first option.

When my parents adopted me, the reason they did was that they couldn’t get pregnant. I don’t know the exact issue, but at the time, medical treatments, like IVF and others, were much more expensive and not so popular. And to be honest, I am not even sure if they tried them or not. What I know is that the road to my adoption wasn’t easy as well. It took them a while to find me. They met other kids. My mum says that I choose them.