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Sex Without Condom: Why Asking For a Partner To Use a Condom Is Still a Tabu?
Disclaimer: In this article, I am considering hetero consensual sex and people who see condoms as important protection.
Having sex without a condom only sounds good when you are having sex and are caught up in the heat of the moment. Afterwards, it’s anyone’s worst nightmare. Not only because it can result in an unplanned pregnancy but also because it can mean getting an STD, luckily anything less serious than HIV.
I remember when I was in my worst dating addiction phase, I had an episode that scares me even today. I went on a date with a guy that was “perfect on paper”. He had it all. He told me he never met someone like me and that he saw us together in the future. Two big red flags, alcohol and neediness, didn’t allow me to see them.
After a couple of drinks, I invited myself to his place, and we had sex without a condom. He not only ghosted me after, but I also was left with a fear of getting HIV. He used to work in the music industry, going from music festival to music festival, probably having sex with everyone without a condom. Ok, I did assume the worst, but he didn’t give me any other option.
But the question is, why didn’t I ask for a condom? Or did I ask, and he ignored it? I was too drunk to remember, not only physically but…
