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The Most Important Thing Therapy Will Teach You
Every Wednesday at 7pm London time I have my weekly therapy section. I don’t look forward to it. After a little longer than a year doing therapy every week, you get tired. Because getting your life together is tiring. It’s work. And we don’t want more work, do we? We want to relax on the beach with cocktails and cigarettes. (At least I do.)
I have decided by the beginner of 2021 that this is the year when I am consistent in everything I do, and therapy is one of them. I have learned so much about myself and how to deal with all the feelings I feel every day. But it’s intense.
Most of the time, I don’t want to talk about what I am feeling, because sometimes I wish I didn’t have that many feelings. Sometimes I wish I could be a robot just executing my daily tasks and being productive. It’s time to write, so just sit and do it, don’t think about it, don’t feel anything about it, just get the word counting up and up and up.
But we can ignore our feelings, can we? Even if we try really hard, because we are still humans and humans will feel things. Therapy makes us take a good look at ourselves and give space to our feelings because they exist. It’s a convention to say that some feelings are good and others are bad, all feelings are valid, not being good or bad. It’s the things we do with our feelings that can be good…
