You Are Failing At Building A Career And Having A Baby

These were the exact words of my ex-husband… I am still digesting them.

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I remember the night my ex-husband told me this:

“You are failing at building a career and having a baby.”

Damn… I was doing really bad in his eyes.

I remember feeling sad and hopeless. Was I failing in life? Well, I always felt like a failure, so he was probably right.

Unfortunately, there is this concept of the woman that has it all. The woman that has the perfect family with more than one kid and that has a successful career making lots of money. Some women do have it all, I can name some examples, but most of us don’t.

For my ex-husband, my life was unacceptable. For him, if I didn’t have a career, I should be popping babies.

For him, a woman could just “give up on having babies (but only for a certain period of time) to focus on their career”.

How could I live with myself if I didn’t have a baby or a job? My existence for him was worthless.